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    Is stress a status symbol?

    Is stress a status symbol?

    I’m Lucy ‘So Busy’ Allen and I’m a recovering Stress-aholic. God that feels good. For as long as I can remember, being busy and being stressed has been my natural state-of-play. Right back to my school days I’d race from choir practice to netball, debating to theatre sports, piano lesson to Japanese drumming never mind… the point is, I was stretched. And it was a rush. This pattern of jam-packing my days with people, appointments and deadlines has followed me into adulthood a
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    Self-care is not a dirty word

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